Random thoughts: pls follow me carefully here.
.Women are less than men, stats point to this.
.Men want more than one woman to have a relationship with, emotional, physical or other (let me say ‘some’)
.Socially, it’s more accepted for men to marry more than one woman
.It’s frowned upon for a woman to have more than one man with whom she’s to have a relationship
Now, having said the above, why is it frowned upon when a SINGLE woman opts, on her own freewill, to date a married man? This woman would have analyzed the situation and realized kuti men aren’t enough to allow each woman to have one for herself. So, she willingly accepts being a potential second/ third wife. Now, how else is this woman to know kuti she is cut out for ‘sharing’ a man if she doesn’t date men who already have wives? Why do ppl/society call HER names? Why doesn’t society call names the man who, out of his own freewill, stood before men and God and declared kuti he wants one woman “forsaking all others” but goes out of his way to flirt and even have an affair with another woman?
Why does the onus of saving someone else`s marriage fall upon the woman who is not in that marriage? Why isn’t the man expected to safeguard his own marriage? Just what role does the husband play in keeping his marriage in tact? Surely, it doesn’t make sense to expect the wife, who has a life of her own where she’s also tryin to keep at bay other men who are on her case, how do we expect HER to then play guard to a fully grown man who has his own mind to chase other women?
Ndati ndibvunzewo. I just thought I’d ask these questions. Seeking answers to questions that baffle me.